I don’t shop for fun. In my mind, shopping is work. When I do shop for myself I am a lone wolf. However, when my best friend was in from out-of-town for a few days and asked me to go shopping I couldn’t refuse. She was looking forward to being able to borrow my eye for a few hours and we were just thrilled to do anything together.
Shopping with my friend opened my eyes to how some women shop and I realized just how checked out I am to this. When I shop with clients I pre-pull before their arrival and if we are shopping together I am more of a leader. In the case with my friend, I was more observant as we perused racks. The biggest difference I noticed between how my friend shopped and how I shop is that I tend to shop with a bigger picture in mind while she shops for individual pieces and can easily miss out on things that aren’t as exciting at first glance.
As my friend and I approached a rack, I fell for a gorgeous camel coat. It wasn’t anything exciting, just a classic style. As I drooled over it, my friend looked at me sort of quizzically because she seemed to lack the ability to see the bigger picture of what made this coat so fabulous. My mind went to all these places this coat would work. In an instant, I could style this coat multiple ways, created outfits using the coat, could see its value and could identify its beauty not necessarily based on the piece itself as much as the overall picture of it.
When my friend found a piece she liked, I noticed it was the immediate draw of the novelty that made it so appealing to her. This didn’t necessarily surprise me. It’s not just in fashion that we get stopped by shiny, pretty things. Unfortunately, when it comes to fashion that’s not enough. We need to have vision and we have to be able to think beyond just thinking something is attractive.
If you shop like my friend and find yourself without the ability to shop with vision and the bigger picture, here are some quick tips to help.
How to Shop with Vision
Style on the fly
What I didn’t realize about myself until I shopped with my friend is that everything I look at in a store gets styled in my head. I don’t see individual pieces, I see outfits. Imagine it like this super fast mental rolodex that takes a piece in the store and automatically runs it through this filter. So, like that coat I mentioned, it took me only a few seconds to find its worth by styling it multiple ways. Had I not done that I would have likely just seen a bland coat.
Doing this for yourself can help you figure out how valuable a piece can be in a wardrobe. Even if you don’t own the supporting pieces you’re styling in your head with the potential piece, you can still appreciate its value through what it could be styled with. What makes it something you bring home is whether or not you have enough items to wear with it and if it fits your lifestyle More importantly, this process can help train the brain to shop with more vision.
Novelty needs to be balanced with basics
Novelty items can be exciting to buy. It’s basics that often go overlooked. I refer to basics as your really solid friends who are always there for you whereas the more novelty pieces are like the crazy friends that you have a good time with but can’t really rely on. You need both basics and novelty pieces to create a balanced wardrobe. Taking the time to see the potential of basics by going through the process of styling these items in their mind can help you see their value.
Basic doesn’t necessarily mean boring
It’s hard to see a basic crew neck sweater as anything exciting. They’re a dime a dozen and not exactly enchanting enough to stop anyone in their tracks while shopping. However, this is an example of a basic that can get you ton of mileage in your wardrobe. The next time you find yourself hung up on a novelty top because it’s so fun and interesting to look at, make it a point to take the same amount of time looking at something basic. Style several looks in your head while looking at this basic. Notice how the foundation of these exciting looks you appreciate so much are built on basics.
Pretty and shiny isn’t enough
The problem with pretty shiny things is that they can cause us to let go of all rational reasoning simply because they are fun. Novelty items require the same amount of vision and thought as basics before you take them home. Taking the time to style novelty pieces will help you rationalize whether you need them while also helping you to see that something being pretty and shiny isn’t enough of a reason to purchase it.
As simple as the process is, taking the time to use vision to work through making outfits in your mind using potential pieces you find in a store can be very helpful in helping to ensure you buy what you need and will wear.